The pivotal seat of human senses is built in her emotional spectrum. The emotions each of us exhibit defines us. Our emotions flows from the sinews of our thoughts, how we process events and what we hope to either interpret, express or achieve by certain mode of actions. The concept of intelligence has recently shifted from the sole concept of academic prowess, street wisdom, technical developed skills or naturally in-grained talents; to emotional intelligence. Talent is not enough for would-be successful manager of people and life’s events. Life events can be predicted but the turn of events is a grey matter. So are people, they change, evolve and distort unannounced.

As we are all different people with different finger prints, so are our emotional configurations. We have folks with weak emotions, those with no emotions and the rest with strong emotions. Recognizing this fact helps you deal with people in different scenarios. A lot of people act on impulse while few take rational decision based on well driven thought process. This is highly impacted by each individual’s emotional configurations.

People with weak emotions are often the folks we refer to as ‘being too emotional’. They are emotionally invested in any of life events. They are easy preys to predators (those who intentionally trigger their emotions to their detriment). A person continues giving to drugs, sex and physical abuse when pushed by either of life’s events or the giving of a predator. People with weak emotions are edgy and live on the extreme. They find it hard to recover from a disappointment, betrayal, illness, bad news or experience. They can be overtly possessive or just placid. They are rather reactive than proactive. They easily give in to an act, demonstration and lies. These folks are gullible and can send a nation to war base on a person’s joke. They make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings. They live in the dual world of impulsion and compulsion. They constantly have to re-live the repercussion. Yet they are to most lovely to witness in moment of adulation or jubilation.

People with no emotions are the emotionally blank folks. They are one-way traffic. They are neither hot nor cold. They never try to strive or struggle for anything; they believe everything happened the way it was meant to happen. In sullen circumstances, their takings are ‘why cry over spilled milk’. This kind of folks can be predicted to a fault. That’s their default, they ain’t bothering about nothing. They cannot feel love the way others do, they act it. Even if they feel emotional pain, they cannot express this. They try to fight over any feelings. To them, feeling is an illusion, ‘better get to task son’. You cannot take this from them. They are like German machines, they do not respond to stimulus in a production run. For some disciplines and official position, they are a good match. They follow script and never flinch.

People with strong emotions always act, not according to life events and people in it but respond on a more reasonable node. They look out for themselves first and react given the ‘called-for’ emotions in the moment. People with strong emotions cry, feel pain and can empathize but their course of action is not directly related to the turn of events but the most seemingly alternative best course of action. People with strong emotions do not act on impulse. They wait for their momentarily emotions to settle down before taking any drastic step.

Issues happen when people of different emotional configurations are put in the same team, activity, function or marriage. When the storm comes you can easily see everyone’s emotional truth. To say the least, there we have the aliens, who have hybrid configurations. Their tendencies are likely bipolar. They are hard to detect, foresee and/or manage. This chameleoniac nature creates its own distortion reality field. You cannot easily pin down their emotional truth (or lie). In fact, any emotion they exhibit is a faux pas or make-up. These are the more dangerous ones. Do not give in to them.

The graceful ability to identify everyone’s emotional truth makes your life not necessarily easier but better. Though you cannot influence what people and life does to us most times but we can choose how we respond to it. This makes up the portmanteau ‘responsibility’ (response and ability). We are capable of anything once we exercise our ability.