TEMPERATE DISPOSITIONS
My hands still stretches high and my arms flown wide as I enjoin you to carry with me the flag across the continents –‘IF YOU CANNOT MAKE HER, DON’T RAPE HER’. In temperate dispositions I look deeper at the different angles and shades of the notorious enmity that has torn humanity apart ‘RAPE’. We have been violated, molested, ripped, despoiled and defiled. We need a savior! It appears we have law and order and governed by Ms. Pepples but she has not risen to the responsibility of her mandate. ‘We are alone’

 

THE WORLD OF MS. PEPPLES
I observed Ms. Pepples detached from the all the factors of modernization that is alien to our fundamental norms and belief system. For instance many rapist are drawn to the idea by what they have seen or been exposed to (pornography). The government is akin to hermit meme, ‘they can do all they like but that is not my business, this tea is good’. How much is the government making from the pornography industry that it has limited or no regulations and consequently, allowed the cinematic ‘rape’ violence and lurid pornographic sequences in those movies, even mainstream release backfired on the society. I wonder sometimes if the law want a real solution or the lawmakers are afraid it is coming back to them.

Ms. Pepples is not concerned, even when houses are burning or a tsunami is blowing the neighbors backyard, so far it is not in her corner. I would imagine the government approach to rape and sexual violence if it happened to the daughter of Barack Obama, Stephen Harper or David Cameron. Not sure which of them has daughters, Google should know. Ms. Pepples is never alarmed unless a member of her house is crossed. She will never intervene, but how long would she wait before the narrative of her story change unexpectedly.

National consciousness is raped as government (who should represent the law) pay lip service to put this menace to bed, once lady Pepples pay a little more attention and take decisive action, there will be even orderliness. For beginner’s, criminalize all forms of rape and sexual violence (marital rape, child rape, necrophilia, aggravated rape, child marriage, genital mutilation, prison rape, marriage by abduction, custodial rape… casting couches), then lets know which devil is the bravest. We all have right to bodily integrity and right to self-determination, we just need Ms Pepples to enforce this legislation and not merely sighted in print. Before I proceed further, allow me to recant another experience of a rape victim.

 

I SEE HUMANS BUT NOT HUMANITY: Fractured Vertebrae
In a lost fight, she yielded in silence
Her members pierced with a dirk
Sharper than two-edged sword
She screamed, none can hear
She yelled, roll-on fear
All she sees, a world coming to an end
Beckoning her with dread

She wished she is like others-
That attended same performance of evil
And pretend to be whole again
Oh! If she could just fake it
Every morning, it keeps her up
Like the stamp of a searing hot iron
He melted her inner chambers

Life course overturned
Submersed in lost identity
Dominating her entire being-
Till the day life is interred
Although one day all men must die
What kills her daily is not the HIV
But the inner pain and trauma

Don’t blame her
She tried to fight back,
She fessed up to the challenge
Howbeit, the rage eclipsed the realms of her physicality
Gritting her teeth and clenching her fist in a fit of survival
She felt her bones rattling, she eventually drowned
Her dried nostrils grasping for a 911 help

There she is,
Every fiber of her gasp for reasons
Reasons far from reasoning
She cannot understand why-
Why she is the object of pain-
At another’s suggestion of pleasure
Daily she sees human but not humanity

 

MEN CYCLE

All men will argue that rape is not their nature but how much of this holds true. Now let’s hear what men have to say to these uneven allegations against their specie-

I was once a target of a female cult, who dealt with targets by gang rape, 20 women in a sex ring, any slack or restrain from the man is met with a punches or metal wires. So let’s not just assume that it is only men that rape, only men are the problem, therefore the solution is to control only men. Needless allegory like the needless alley in the city of Birmingham.

To begin with, men are frustrated with the increasing empowerment of women, so skewed up that the price (women’s expectations) rise to a point where a significant number of men cannot afford the ticket to women’s heart. Thus the price of a bride had soared beyond the reach of an average men. Hey dude, wake up, the world you are is competitive than ever. You have to earn what you think you deserve. Why do you think you deserve her when you cannot meet her expectations? If she cannot meet the equation, find your levels. Culture is being re-defined and traditions are being tossed but a woman’s value cannot be stolen from her without her permission.

Men want momentarily satisfaction but run from commitments. The more reason a man will say I want to marry someday to his girlfriend, but he did not mention ‘I want to marry you’. The stakes are high, but real men know when and who to climb. So rather than commit to one person, a man loves the adventure of test-running a variety of vagina, even when he has to force his way. Hence, the incidence of rape.

What do we make of soldiers who pay themselves the loot of war by piercing their manhood inside anything under a skirt? In the perimeter of war and coast of battle, many un-solid soldiers subscribed to the idea, with the thought such serpentine adventure could be the last sexual act of their life, and should they not make it through the war. To them, they may lose the civil war but they have this covered. First, you are disservice to your sponsors. Didn’t you sign your oath, and while making someone you should be assuring the heavenly hope pass through hell unwarranted. Secondly, you put to shreds the social fabric of a nation and instead stop a war, you fueled another.

We do not want to be less sensitive, bias and innocuous to the fact men are also victims of rape, as close as 1 out of every 25 of rape incidence involves a man being sexually assaulted. I propose new legislation that makes prosecution gender neutral. There is no altar of justification for any sexual assault or physical violence regardless of gender.

I believe our society should not be warped with wrong perception of gender equality, what is good for the goose, same for gander and vice versa. Men and Women are equal women and thus have same civil obligations and liability. I can imagine the hot arguments in men’s quarters when Solange Knowles bruce-leed Jay Z in an elevator. Everyone meme the latter for chickening out, rarely few voiced concerns over the physical assault. When does it become okay for women to go ballistic on men and get away with it. If Jay Z shows us that men can be victims of domestic abuse, then the abuser must face the rod of the law. That also goes for some psychopath mentally unstable and social inept male who maltreat women beyond reasoning. Apparently, that was not the case for Chris Brown who was court-martialed for attack on Rihanna. Are we just hypocrites?

Someone just nipped me and said, yes we are hypo…For instance, take India as a case in point. I am still confused, you would imagine with how Indian men sing beautiful songs on movie set, you would think Indian men would be the best to treat women with respect. That is all lies just as we are being sold –off in Hollywood movies as well. A friend just mentioned that ‘people modeled their marriage on what they see on the big screen from people who in real life are hovering from one divorce to another’. Does that make Bollywood all false and cartwheel? Seems so, “these dudes aren’t loyal” or it runs in the blood. That I can disagree, there are still nice men in New Delhi. What if India and Pakistan men has one of the highest men libido #justsaying. That I can agree. Not being racist but some of my girlfriends run away from clubs because of my Asian brothers. These guys just roam around without formal greeting, grab ladies butt and press it hard on their cock chamber pretending they are dancing to a music they know nothing about. A conversation goes like this between two girlfriends of mine (Katrina and Alice), we-in for a birthday, sitting at a booth in the corner of the lounge-

Katrina: King (referring to me), Oh my goodness! Dj is playing my favorite song (beautiful people by Chris Brown), let’s go on dance floor. Alice come join us

King: uhmmnn, let’s just chill with the birthday girl

Alice: Oh that’s Chris Brown, let’s dig in guys, King you got any new steps you want to show us. (In same moment, her countenance changed) Oh, I am sorry I can’t go on the dance floor

Katrina (In bewilderment): Why Alice? You trippin’

King (I): Thinking because I wasn’t interested, so I obliged, ‘get your grove on girls, let’s go…’

Alice (cuts in): Hey the Asian guys

Katrina: Oh, I can see them. I think we just chill here then.

On a serious note, if there are sex enhancement drugs like Viagra, maybe we can have some like ‘Diagra’ to lower men’s libido. My Asian brothers can use some. In fact, all men can use this to always calm down before they cause havoc. That would be a massive scientific revolution. Does it mean a man having taken doses of this wonder drug will sees a naked beautiful woman and he feels nothing erotic? Is this possible, I want to believe so.

On the other side- here is a man, Alan Northrop, wrongly convicted for rape and spent 17 years of his prime years behind bars until he was exonerated. Do we think the law had given unnecessary power to women and minors who can send any man to jail by just making up spurious stories? This is a negative representation of ‘woman power’. What we can do is to do a thorough investigation of reported rape cases and ascertain beyond reasonable doubt someone really broke the camel’s back before we lay him on the crucifixion table. Nevertheless, given the high incidence of rape against women (just imagine the two poor teen girls recently raped in India and hanged on a tree to bleed to death), unwanted/forced pregnancies, high prevalence of STDS and STIs- Government should institute programs that addresses women’s right to control their sexuality. A woman is not a toy neither is her punani, she has every right to deny anyone sex, even her husband.

Thus, everyman must respect everywoman. ‘Every girl I see, I see a mother. I respect like any mother because she could be one someday, if she decides to be’. So why rape your mother…. A questions all rapists should seek to answer. Even when women try to pull on the best of their strong virtues and proof their torso, you can imagine if women’s cycle can cause mood swings ranging from suicidal depression to murderous rage, then they need much nicer treatment from their fellow specie. Some gat to give. Men cannot just flare out of control, we must seek to manage the situation. If you cannot win her love, don’t mess her up. And when you win her love, do not abuse her. Let her be the priority.

 

REMAIN ANONYMOUS FOREVER

♫ Stop playing with fire ♫, a lullaby I can sing a million times for all women who wear provocative dress that extenuate their female attributes. Know for sure you are not communicating to a man’s senses but speaking directly to his libido. His libido reactions- I can tell you that nine out of ten is irrational. Be warned! Should we be surprised to know 80% of victims are under age 30? These youngies have misconstrue what being sexy should be, they expose too much which warrants those sly attention. Can you blame them? The society is lost in lust and the media is wrecking us more than ever before. If the council of fashion designers in USA can honor a celebrity who showed up 95% naked with full visibility of her breast and butt as the fashion Icon for the year 2014, and most media reporting how flawlessly, immaculate, trendy and fit she is. You can imagine girls who take her as role model, not my daughter though, will adopt nudity as their idea of fashion on the street of some of the violent neighborhoods in the world thinking the street is their award red-carpet can do no wrong when they are violated. Whose nemesis?

A friend comments recently ‘this is sad, because she doesn’t have anything on the inside worth displaying so she puts her private parts in display’. I differ though, she is sweet musician who has a formidable platform to plant good seeds in the vineyard of morality. I feel sorry for Rihanna but sorrier for those who follows after her diametric example. Since when is complete public nudity fashion? Imagine, she has the power to reshape the pop culture positively and ultimately her revered fans, but what all these celebrities want to prove is who can break bad the most. Breaking bad TV series is off-air, oh I wished celebrities breaking bad tendencies can be off-sight as well. Then this is really sad .Please don’t try this on the streets of Mexico, Brazil, Afghanistan, India, Somalia, Pakistan, Nigeria… you may not survive to recant the storyline. No wonder Ms.Pepples pays lip service to this madness, some rape victims forced this evil on their head. Be wise!

The world is becoming more liberal, so also apparels women put on. To some men, the major role of women in the society, especially young women is to distract men by what they wear, and this form of distraction cannot be easily contained by some of us. Whereas pop-feminists dismiss this idea of sexual passion as a motive for rape. Pop-feminists would argue that these young women and girls are just too beautiful and endowed that some men can’t just resist. But don’t they reason that it would help men at least, if women dress more appropriately. Beauty is not nudity, these young girls need to know better. Where are their parents anyway? These girls need to know the way a lady portray herself can lead to being toyed and violated with no caution. You might as well up the sign please Mr. ‘suck my future’, if as a woman your sole purpose is provocatively speak to a man’s libido.

This explains while some men would think that some women actually deserved to be rape. A study in Turkey found that 33% of police officers agreed with the assertion that ‘some women deserved to be raped’. A third of them agreed that ‘the physical appearance and behaviors of women sometimes tempt men to rape them’. Do such assertion explains over 500,000 rapes happening in South Africa every year because their women are beautiful and irresistible or men are just lost and in lust?

Still on the subject, let’s be honest, some women really do attract this negative attention and they pay too much of a consequence. Such women I suppose can remain anonymous forever. Women love attention, you cannot take it from them but we can at least pretend to be civilized. It is funny women stand against being used as failed sex experiments but will not stand against indecent dressing.

In this regard, how do you help one who does not want to take her own share of responsibility? Yet no one is serious about it, I propose a dress code for women. Anyone who betrays this law should be fined. That would explain less rape incidence in places where women were ‘overalls’ compare to liberal funny democracies. You can’t dress like a prostitute and expect to be treated to be a princess. I am sorry, such treatment is not for whores. Dress the way you want to be addressed.

In this age, there are conflicting ideology of the sexuality of a woman. It is no news some women do entertain the idea of being rape by a horse-like dude. They imagine themselves being swept off by a domino individual, with initial protest but volcanic pleasure to follow just as mills and boon-like anecdote. These kind of women eventually substitute sex fantasies with sex desires and does culminates to the harsh sex reality. If this is the case, then there is no case. If you are that lady, I suggest you remain anonymous forever.

Married women who uses sex as punishment for an unjust cause in their marriage does much harm to their marriage than preserve it. What you must understand is that men does not want sex, they need sex. No theory of science can proof otherwise, it is the way the male specie is wired. Do yourself a favor, respect yourself, fulfill your marital obligations, protect your integrity and serve your partner right. You can’t switch off like that for no just cause and expect some not to happen eventually. If you are being draconian in fulfilling your partner’s sexual needs, I suggest you remain anonymous forever.

Who else needs to remain anonymous forever, those drunk jerk heads? For many women who maintained they are raped are most likely lost in their limited consciousness. No one raped them, they raped their selves, and they violated the golden law ‘drink responsibility’. A study related to findings on root cause of rape finds out that in 47% of reported rapes, both the victim and the perpetrator had been drinking. Our girls being carelessly careless to a point of no return. This is the case when a woman consented to sex after having too much to drink, spread their thighs, warranted the coitus and regret it afterward. Who is to blame while this happens every other week? She planted the apple, she ate the apple, and she might as well be the apple.

 

BAD SELF-PORTRAIT
It is reported that most women tend to blame themselves after becoming victims of sexual and domestic violence. They believed at one point they might have provoked the attacker or as popular in some cultures, they have themselves to blame for being in relationship or choosing that husband/partner/boyfriend in the first place.

You could have spent your whole life replaying the incidence over and over again in your memory space. May be if I had changed my dress, hairdo, left my phone at home, slept longer that day or even refuse to go on internet, maybe I could have just waved the coincidence and the horror torturing experience.

Guess you got to move on. I would rather stop taking landscapes and still lifes of the old experience even if it seems like it never left you. You got to move on or be stuck making life sculptures of the dead. Avoid taking bad self-portraits of yourself, it was never your fault. You did not worth it, no one should be made to go through such illness. Then and there some can really be at fault- those I advice to remain anonymous forever.
‘There is way out’, in fact there are multiple ways out of this mess.

I have painted the problem, now it is best we draw up far-reaching solutions to the menace. Allow me one more time to dwell on this topic in the next sequel. The last piece will settle on what we can do, how Ms. Pepples can live up to her mandate and reviewing some of the naysayers’ arguments. Stay tuned for – GANG RAPE, GANGSTER AND MS. PEPPLES. PART 3: SURVIVOR CONQUEST